When we are bequeathed with the great grace of loosing a very loved one, we are faced with a deep disturbance and we have this great urge in us to want to help such loved one out of his 'vicissitude' .We would like to believe he is greatly to be pitied for leaving the world. No! We are far more to be pitied. The deeper we love a person, the more the horror of this separation faces us, and we would love to be spared, yet our beloved is simply pointing to us what is life, but we would like to be spared of our pains and predicaments;anything that reminds us of him becomes a source of pain: his pictures, writings, videos, belongings etc; or the frequent dreams we have of the person, which perhaps we would want to be spared of, for they are at the same time deeply sorrowful and highly complex to fathom, for though we should not disregard dreams, they could be highly difficult to decipher,as difficult as trying to communicate to a babe what we would want of him . Just as it could be difficult to realize that sorrow at the departure of a loved one is one of the greatest grace we would ever have as much as it draws us towards memory, reconciliation & conversion if it is authentic .
So what has become of our loved ones, we would love to know? Are they in heaven, purgatory or - God forbid- hell? We would like to know if they are faring well; the truth is that, if such person has died in Christ and is someone acquainted to trusting in His mercy, his present state would be far far better than ours , and on the contrary, he is very much concerned about us, and his greatest concern is for us to know the truth and live it as he now knows it vividly.Mercy at last is the ultimate determinant and it lies outside the scope of our judgement ! Mercy is the promise of our faith,the faith of our fathers, of Abraham and his sons forever.
So are you sad & anxious about the state of your loved ones? These are simply calls for you to practice reconciliation , conversion & memory, that is the litmus test that they are faring well, and you are perhaps far blessed than those who have not experienced loosing a beloved, for blessed are those who mourn.
